Embracing Singlehood as Sacred: A Conversation with Fanny Tristan

In a world that often tries to measure a woman’s worth by her relationship status, I felt it was time to have a real, refreshing conversation. On a recent episode of Sheila’s Take, I sat down with Fanny Tristan—a women’s empowerment coach, trauma therapist, and founder of Her Soul Supply—to challenge the tired narratives around singlehood, especially for women of color.

Our conversation was more than just dialogue; it was a masterclass in reframing singlehood as a sacred, empowering space for healing, growth, and self-discovery.

Rewriting the Narrative: Singlehood as Sacred Space

Too often, society frames singlehood—particularly for women of color—as a temporary, undesirable state. Fanny and I wanted to flip that script. Singlehood can be a sacred, intentional season of self-growth, healing, and empowerment.

Understanding the Systems: The Biopsychosocial Approach

Fanny’s approach is rooted in her identity as a Black Latina and her training in clinical social work. She uses the biopsychosocial model to help women put their experiences in context.

From Pathology to Empowerment: Why You’re Not “Broken”

Society loves to pathologize single women—labeling them as “too picky,” “too bossy,” or “flawed.” Fanny and I reframed this narrative: singlehood isn’t a diagnosis, it’s an opportunity.

Intentional Standards vs. Self-Sabotage

One of my favorite moments was when Fanny and I tackled the myth that women are “too picky.” We reframed it as honoring your standards, not sabotaging your chances.

The Power of Community and Sisterhood

Healing doesn’t happen in isolation. Fanny reminded me of the transformative power of women gathering together.

Actionable Tips for Thriving in Singlehood

Here are some of Fanny’s best strategies for making the most of your single season: reclaim your agency, reconnect with yourself, expand your world, release regrets, and set healthy boundaries.

Fanny’s Favorite Resources and Affirmations

Her recommendations included bell hooks’ All About Love, affirmations like “You can do hard things,” and even fun touches like ice cream and Beyoncé for empowerment.

Final Thoughts: The World is Bigger Than You Think

Singlehood isn’t a limitation. It’s an invitation to expand, explore, and embrace your whole self.

Ready to Dive Deeper?

• Connect with Fanny Tristan at Her Soul Supply for resources, courses, and retreats

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