Beyond Bubble Baths: My Take on Real Self-Care for Black Women

Let's get real about self-care, sisters. If you've been following my journey, you know I'm all about cutting through the superficial and getting to the heart of what truly sustains us as Black women. And let me tell you – it's not just about spa days and bubble baths (though those are nice too!).

I learned this lesson the hard way. For years, I was that woman who said "yes" to everything and everyone, wearing my exhaustion like a badge of honor. I thought being strong meant never taking a break, never saying no, never putting myself first. Sound familiar?

But here's what I've learned: true self-care is revolutionary. It's about honoring our cultural practices, protecting our peace, and creating space for joy – especially in a world that often tries to deny us these basic rights.

Sisters, we need to expand our definition of self-care. It's in the small acts of resistance:

• Saying no to that extra commitment

• Maintaining our family traditions

• Taking time for prayer or meditation

• Simply sitting in silence without feeling guilty

I want you to know that you're worthy of the same care and attention you give to others. Start small if you need to, but start somewhere. Maybe it's five minutes of quiet time in the morning, or learning to say "let me think about it" instead of an automatic "yes."

Remember, when we take care of ourselves, we're better equipped to care for our communities. That's not selfish – it's sustainable.

I'd love to hear from you. How do you practice real self-care? What boundaries have you set that have changed your life? Drop a comment below and let's continue this conversation.

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